Tantric Massage – Awakening the Goddess

What is tantric massage?

Authentic tantric massage is a heart-connected celebration of your femininity. The aim is to discover your essential femininity. I offer authentic tantric massage sessions in London.

So what is this spiritual approach to touch and sexuality?

Tantric massage is a full-body erotic massage with oil that awakens your senses, releases emotions and heals the connection between heart and sexuality. It brings awareness to your creative, erotic energy. And it helps you release your orgasmic potential into your life.

Through a polarising masculine presence and intuitive, conscious touch, you have the possibilities of new ecstatic experiences and a connection to your divine feminine. A possibility to awaken the goddess within.

Experience a ritual of love

In the tantric massage, we’ll start with a ritual to connect us to our highest selves and create a heart connection. Based on your preferences, we might include tantric eye-gazing, holding hands on each other’s hearts, or adorning each other with drops of blessed water to purify ourselves. These elements create polarity and positive emotional and energetic states that we can amplify in the massage.

The massage begins with a touch at the level of the heart so you can feel the safety and love present and necessary for this nurturing experience. With gentle strokes and use of pressure points, your body can relax, and your sensuality can naturally stir. As your energies awaken, caresses and loving touch amplify the energies throughout your whole body.

The massage is two hours minimum and more usually three or even four hours.

Throughout the massage, I have awareness and control over my own energies. By maintaining a heart connection and strong empathic link, I follow intuitive guidance to create the possibilities of awakening and healing in you.

As the massage ends, you’ll have a time to relax and integrate the experience. Then we’ll do breathing exercises or a meditation to raise your powerful energies to a higher level, nurturing and further awakening your feminine qualities so they can manifest in your life after the massage.

What makes a massage tantric?

Unfortunately, the term tantric massage is now commonly used to mean a sexual massage with a “happy ending”. In contrast, an authentic tantric massage will:

  • Have an aspiration to bring you closer to your true self, or to the divine
  • Have a high degree of presence and consciousness, both in you and from your practitioner
  • Transform sexual energy into erotic energy, which is an energy that flows towards the heart and love
  • Be filled with transfiguration, which means sensing through surface appearances to find the deeper truth and beauty

By experiencing these qualities in the massage, and with a practitioner who has cultivated these qualities, you’ll find the same qualities available to you more and more in other aspects of your life.

The loving adoration of the masculine polarises your femininity

A practitioner can increase the power of a tantric massage enormously by using polarity, which is the energetic charge created by amplifying two opposite poles. For example, an intense focus and consciousness on the slowest, gentlest touch can create intense states of energy.

One of the most significant forms of polarity is between the masculine and the feminine.

The path of the man in Tantra is one of love, courage and standing for spiritual principles. With full consciousness, he constantly looks through illusion to find the beauty in all of life.

When a man is confident in this masculinity, he creates the love, safety and security every woman needs to relax and express her femininity fully. His adoration encourages her sensuality, creativity, freedom, and intense power. When modern life inhibits the feminine and makes her small or tells her she’s “too much”, the tantric man’s deepest desire is to give her the space where she can be in full, powerful expression of her soul.

It is a uniquely special experience to have a confident masculine adoring your inner beauty with unconditional love. It’s an experience that creates the conditions for your feminine to awaken fully.

A strong conscious masculine can hold difficult energy

As your femininity truly awakens, the obstacles that block you can appear. Old emotions or memories, numbness, fears, grief, anger could all appear. These are all forms of energy (the feminine).

A tantric man’s role is to polarise that energy with his conscious loving attention. He holds a space where whatever comes he accepts and he helps you accept. He supports you through whatever comes and lovingly steers energies in a positive and higher direction. On the other side of the obstacles is freedom and a deep connection to your true self.

Is a tantric massage right for me?

You might have some some concerns or fears about having a tantric massage. You might feel you’re too old, or you’re not comfortable about your body. You might feel you’re not allowed to have pleasure or attention that’s all about you. Those are actually good reasons to go ahead with the massage. To challenge those beliefs and discover you are still young, you are beautiful, you are allowed to enjoying pleasure and attention. You can discover who you are when you’re free of what’s keeping you small.

I hold a safe, loving space and accept you just the way you are. I’ve worked with women in their 60s. I’ve worked with people of all shapes and sizes. I’ve adored birthmarks and scars. I’ve always found the beauty in the women I’ve worked with.

And if the experience seems daunting, we can take small steps or customise what happens to make sure you are comfortable and within the boundaries of what you’d like to happen. For example, you might prefer to start with some Sexological Bodywork sessions where you can be fully clothed and explore touch in a more controlled way.

I’ve worked across the whole spectrum of possibilities of touch: from women who are scared to even notice their bodies or experience the smallest touch, through to women whose bodies become so alive they feel they are connected to God. Wherever you are on that continuum, we can find a comfortable, enjoyable experience to begin your journey to discover what’s possible for you.

What is a yoni massage?

Yoni is a beautiful Sanskit word meaning “the source” or “the womb” and specifically the vulva, vagina, and uterus. It is associated with the divine feminine and the goddess Shakti. As a word, it brings with it all that is positive and powerful about the feminine and her ability to create life and, more generally, the whole of creation.

Many western words for female sexual organs are cold and medical, or crude and sexual. So, many people adopt the word yoni to reclaim the positive power of female eroticism.

A yoni massage is a specific type of conscious touch for the vulva and vagina. Some people would call it a vagina massage but, done properly it is a yoni healing. At the physical level, it involves a specific kind of touch and technique from the practitioner. At an energetic and emotional level, it creates a special connection between you and your yoni, that can heal emotional and traumatic pain and numbness.

A yoni massage awakens a much deeper awareness of your yoni and your creative erotic power, opening the possibilities of that energy flowing into all aspects of your being and your life.

What are the benefits of a yoni massage?

For women who are experiencing problems with sex, a yoni massage can:

  • Get rid of pain and discomfort during sex
  • Release emotional blocks
  • Heal past trauma or abuse held in your yoni

The yoni massage achieves these benefits by:

  • Awakening sensitivity in your yoni
  • Building conscious awareness of the entire space of your yoni
  • Teaching your yoni how to relax tensions, and be in its natural flow of inner movement
  • Creating a nurturing erotic energy
  • Connecting the erotic energy to your heart, love, and beyond

What’s the relationship between a tantric massage and a yoni massage?

A tantric massage does not need to include a yoni massage; but a yoni massage will always include a full tantric massage. The tantric massage creates the relaxation, openness to energy flows, and the safety that is necessary for healing and transformational effects.

And a yoni massage must only happen with your full consent: both at the beginning of the session and at the moment just before the yoni massage begins.

A yoni massage is not something that is “done to you” – it can only happen when you are fully present and ready mentally, emotionally and energetically with your whole body. And if it doesn’t feel right for you in the moment, then any reputable practitioner will stop immediately and engage in supporting your needs in that moment.

Your safety and boundaries are top priority

If you choose a tantric or yoni massage, then from the first moment we meet, I will treat you with sensitivity and respect.

We’ll talk about what you’d like to happen and whether there are any particular issues you would like to work on. We’ll talk about how the massage works and about your boundaries and how we maintain them at all times. This is your experience and you are in total control of what’s happening at all times.

Keeping you safe, and alternatives to tantric massage

A tantric massage is a deep and often intense experience. So, as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, I’ll be assessing how suitable it is for you.

To keep you safe and able to benefit fully from the experience, I might suggest we do some preparatory work beforehand, such as consent exercises or body-awareness practices, to help you have a safer, deeper experience of your body.

Tantric massage is very different to Sexological Bodywork. However, there are Sexological Bodywork practices, such as active receiving and vulva mapping, that have many of the benefits of tantric massage. These practices have explicit communication and checking on embodied consent, and so can be a better starting place if you have issues with knowing and communicating your boundaries, or have trauma in your history. And, after those practices, then you might feel ready for Tantric massage and experiencing the deeper emotional and energetic benefits.

When the goddess awakens, the god awakens too

My experience of giving tantric massage has been profound. I’ve had to step up to meet the power of the feminine and to hold the darkness that so often needs to be cleared. I’ve enhanced my presence, my intuition, and my ability to see the beauty that is often deeply hidden.

Seeing the women I’ve helped step into life with more self-confidence, freedom and radiating their beautiful qualities is utterly inspiring in my life. And my desire to see more of that in the world led me to qualify as a Sexological Bodyworker and train in trauma resolution so I can be of even more service to freeing powerful, authentic femininity into the world.

Tantric and yoni massage in London

I provide tantric and yoni massage sessions in London. I specialise in helping women who want to reconnect to their body and eroticism, particularly after difficult relationships or sexual or emotional trauma.

I am trauma-informed and also a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, which means I can help you make sure tantric massage is right for you and support you if you unlock trauma as part of the process. I am on an ongoing tantric spiritual journey and have a daily practice, so I can support the deeper spiritual aspects of these sessions.

And if tantric massage is not right for you now or you’d like to take smaller steps first, I have a range of ways of working from talking-based explorations through to sexological bodywork practices.

Whatever your aspirations, I’d love to have a friendly chat to discover what’s possible for you.

– Paul

Continuing your exploration...

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