Somatic Sex Therapy Sessions for Women in London and Online
Somatic Sex Therapy is a way to solve sexual problems by reconnecting you to your body. It usually involves guiding your attention to notice what’s happening in your body and what your body would like. It can also involve movement and simple exercises to regulate your nervous system and help you enjoy and appreciate your body.
I offer Somatic Sex Therapy sessions in London and online. You can find out more in these articles:
When you’re ready, you can contact me. You can ask questions, or book a free, friendly chat to talk to me and find out what’s possible. No pressure, no obligation. I’d love to meet you.
“Paul helped me reclaim myself and my spirit. I got in touch with my frozen holding and trauma in my body and how I was afraid of opening up to my pleasure and to myself. I now feel entirely different. I admire and love my body. I love the shape of my breasts. I wear more sensual clothes. It has been a miracle.”
“I so appreciated the space to explore and experience myself from an internal perspective – it has been very valuable.
Paul held the space beautifully. I have a tendency to be “thinky”, so these sessions were ideal for experiencing myself in an entirely different way.”
I work with a variety of clients. Whether you're in your 20s or your 70s, whatever your body size or shape, whether you're neurotypical or neurodiverse (particularly Autism or ADHD), whether you're comfortable with or ashamed of your body, and whatever your history, you can heal and rediscover your body, your beauty and your pleasure.
I'm Paul and I help women reconnect to their body and sexuality, particularly after sexual or emotional trauma or difficult relationships with men. I hold a safe, loving space for you to rediscover your body, desires and sexuality, entirely at your own pace, using coaching, embodiment and bodywork practices.
What do somatic sex therapy sessions cost?
Our first friendly chat is free.
Sessions cost £100/hour for online sessions (or equivalent in other currencies for my non-UK clients), and £120/hour for in-person sessions. However this work is a calling for me and I don’t want it to be out-of-reach of those who need it, so I offer some “pay what you can afford” places. So if finances are tight for you, but you know it's important for you to do this work, then just contact me and we’ll find an affordable option for you.
How long are somatic sex therapy sessions?
Somatic sex therapy sessions are usually 60 to 90 mins. However, sessions can be longer if you’d like to go more slowly or deeper. We can work out what’s right for you when we talk.
Whereabouts can we do sessions?
We can do sessions online. For in-person sessions, I work from my home in North London: Barnet (N11).
I can also potentially travel to you. If you are near me in London, I won't charge any extra. For other locations, I sometimes travel but I will need to charge for my travel time and any expenses. If you are travelling from further afield, we can make arrangements, such as longer sessions, or sessions on consecutive days, to make it worthwhile for you.
I often work with clients who are visiting from other countries, particularly from America and India, and I'm happy to travel to hotels in central London for longer sessions (3+ hours), and this will have a travel charge, which is usually an extra hour of my time.
What else do I need to know about somatic sex therapy?
You are always in control of the experience and, if we do any exercises, you’ll choose exactly what you would like to happen. Sessions are guided positively: towards what you would like in life, and focussing on what resources you have and skills you can develop.
Particularly when healing from trauma, it’s important to build resources and heal at your own pace, connected to the needs of your body and listening to any resistance.
Whenever you’re ready, you can contact me. You can ask questions, or book a free, friendly chat to talk to me and find out what’s possible. No pressure, no obligation. I’d love to meet you.
“I suddenly woke up to the fact I was in my 60s, spent my life looking after everyone else and I’d never enjoyed sex. I was incredibly nervous reaching out to Paul, but he made me feel safe and completely in control. After a couple of sessions, I felt like an excited teenager again, and my body felt so alive.”
“Paul is a true professional. Two factors, above other wonderful skills, means he is someone I would go back to again and recommend to others with no hesitation. One, is Paul’s ability to tailor the sessions to what is present in the moment and let it take its ramifications wherever it goes, discreetly facilitating the process so the path reveals itself to you. Second, is Paul’s incredible ability to safely hold the space: what sometimes feels difficult to hold, with Paul is possible.”
It's normal to be nervous taking the first step...
I know it can be a big step to make contact. Some of my clients waited weeks or even months to reach out to me. It's completely normal to feel unsure or nervous. My role is to make the process as easy and comfortable for you as possible.
You can choose to contact me by email, phone, WhatsApp or a zoom call - whatever feels most comfortable for you. It's a chance to ask whatever you like about what's possible, what happens in sessions and about me personally. There's no obligation and I really am very friendly.