Sexological Bodywork Sessions for Women in London and Online
Sexological Bodywork is a professional, structured way to solve sexual problems and explore new body experiences. It’s a form of somatic sex therapy that can range from talking-only to hands-on bodywork. You choose what happens and are completely in control at all times.
I offer Sexological Bodywork sessions in London and online. You can find out more in these articles:
When you’re ready, you can contact me. You can ask questions, or book a free, friendly chat to talk to me and find out what’s possible. No pressure, no obligation. I’d love to meet you.
“I had severe trust issues with men due to previous trauma but the sessions I received from Paul were so loving and nurturing. He made me feel cherished, seen, attractive but, most importantly of all, safe. I now feel ready to embark on a new relationship after keeping myself closed down for so many years”
“Paul helped me reclaim myself and my spirit. I got in touch with my frozen holding and trauma in my body and how I was afraid of opening up to my pleasure and to myself. I now feel entirely different. I admire and love my body. I love the shape of my breasts. I wear more sensual clothes. It has been a miracle.”
I work with a variety of clients. Whether you're in your 20s or your 70s, whatever your body size or shape, whether you're neurotypical or neurodiverse (particularly Autism or ADHD), whether you're comfortable with or ashamed of your body, and whatever your history, you can heal and rediscover your body, your beauty and your pleasure.
I'm Paul and I help women reconnect to their body and sexuality, particularly after sexual or emotional trauma or difficult relationships with men. I hold a safe, loving space for you to rediscover your body, desires and sexuality, entirely at your own pace, using coaching, embodiment and bodywork practices.
What do sexological bodywork sessions cost?
Our first friendly chat is free.
Sessions cost £100/hour for online sessions (or equivalent in other currencies for my non-UK clients), and £120/hour for in-person sessions. However this work is a calling for me and I don’t want it to be out-of-reach of those who need it, so I offer some “pay what you can afford” places. So if finances are tight for you, but you know it's important for you to do this work, then just contact me and we’ll find an affordable option for you.
How long are sexological bodywork sessions?
Sexological bodywork sessions are usually 90mins to 2 hours. However, online session can sometimes be shorter (60 mins). Longer sessions are possible for deeper work. We can work out what’s right for you when we talk.
Whereabouts can we do sessions?
We can do sessions online. For in-person sessions, I work from my home in North London: Barnet (N11).
I can also potentially travel to you. If you are near me in London, I won't charge any extra. For other locations, I sometimes travel but I will need to charge for my travel time and any expenses. If you are travelling from further afield, we can make arrangements, such as longer sessions, or sessions on consecutive days, to make it worthwhile for you.
I often work with clients who are visiting from other countries, particularly from America and India, and I'm happy to travel to hotels in central London for longer sessions (3+ hours), and this will have a travel charge, which is usually an extra hour of my time.
What are your ethics and boundaries?
As a certified professional I work with a code of ethics to ensure your safety and wellbeing, confidentiality, and to ensure I work in a professional way. I also stick to certain boundaries that make it clear what is possible and not possible in sessions. You can find the details on my Ethics and Boundaries page.
What else do I need to know about sexological bodywork sessions?
You are always in control of the experience and choose exactly what you would like to happen. Often we’ll start with consent and conscious touch exercises. But if they feel too much, we can start with a talking exploration or simple exercises to help you notice what your body would like.
This structured approach with you in control, lets you build confidence in me and the experience, while exploring your boundaries, your pleasure and what blocks you. Particularly when healing from trauma, it’s important that you heal at your own pace, connected to the needs of your body and listening to any resistance.
You can find out more by reading my article What is Sexological Bodywork?
Whenever you’re ready, you can contact me. You can ask questions, or book a free, friendly chat to talk to me and find out what’s possible. No pressure, no obligation. I’d love to meet you.
“I suddenly woke up to the fact I was in my 60s, spent my life looking after everyone else and I’d never enjoyed sex. I was incredibly nervous reaching out to Paul, but he made me feel safe and completely in control. After a couple of sessions, I felt like an excited teenager again, and my body felt so alive.”
“Paul holds an amazing space of unconditional love and acceptance which I had never experienced before with a man. Doing exercises that enabled me to practice boundaries and consent, I started setting boundaries in my own life and saying no to things I didn’t want including saying no to sex. In that space, I was able to explore my own femininity, start to feel like a sexual woman again and accept that I did deserve love.”
It's normal to be nervous taking the first step...
I know it can be a big step to make contact. Some of my clients waited weeks or even months to reach out to me. It's completely normal to feel unsure or nervous. My role is to make the process as easy and comfortable for you as possible.
You can choose to contact me by email, phone, WhatsApp or a zoom call - whatever feels most comfortable for you. It's a chance to ask whatever you like about what's possible, what happens in sessions and about me personally. There's no obligation and I really am very friendly.