Ethics and Boundaries

As a certified professional, I work with a code of ethics. I am a professional member of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB) and also the Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists (ASIS). Many of my sessions are sexological bodywork sessions, so I abide by the ACSB code of ethics for those sessions. However, I offer Tantra sessions that include Tantric Massage and Yoni Massage which can have broader boundaries, and so I abide by the ASIS code of ethics for these sessions. I have a few additional boundaries and standards of my own. Here is a summary of the ethics that are important to me:

Safety and Wellbeing

My main goal is your well-being and personal growth during our sessions
I will engage you in ongoing consent before and during any touch or bodywork. You can pause, modify, or stop at any time
Any touch is for your learning and growth, always respecting your boundaries
I ensure hygiene and safety, particularly during touch that involves bodily fluids or sensitive areas

Your privacy is crucial, and I respect and protect all information shared during our sessions
Any records are kept confidential and secure

I have extensive training and experience
I commit to ongoing learning to provide a high-quality service that meets your needs
I will clearly explain the methods, benefits, and limitations of anything we do so you can make informed choices
I avoid conflicts of interest and do not exploit clients for personal or financial gain
I have regular supervision, as well as being a supervisor of other sexuality professionals myself. I seek advice from colleagues if I feel unprepared to meet your needs. If I can't meet your needs, I will provide referrals
I follow up with supervision and guidance if any boundary concerns arise
I hold professional indemnity insurance

I value your consent, agency, and choice in all our sessions, explaining options for your active participation
I communicate openly about any concerns or changes in our sessions, ensuring a transparent and trusting relationship
I aim to create an environment of safety, trust and empowerment
I aim to model clear communication and boundary setting

I focus on education, personal growth, and improved wellbeing. I do not provide medical treatment, medical diagnostics or psychotherapy
I will be clothed, unless you explicitly ask for me to remove some clothes, such as for body-to-body work in a tantric massage session
You may touch me, but not sexually, unless we have a specific agreement. Examples of touch that are OK are: hugs and embraces, hand on heart, holding my hand for comfort, and touch for Wheel of Consent work
I may agree to sexual touch of me. This will happen only when you explicitly ask to do that kind of touch, we have established why such touch might be beneficial for you, and we have discussed the boundaries of such touch either before or at the very start of the session(s) where it will happen
My sessions are loving, and there can be emotional connection. I encourage open conversations about any emotional connections, and aim for any connection to be a way of opening better relationships and emotional connection in your life. I aim to minimise any attachment to me and I do not form romantic relationships with clients